Couples With the Best Sex Lives Have This in Common, Says Science

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Contrary to what movies, TV shows, and the media in general have conditioned us to believe, couples don’t have to be sexually adventurous in order to have a great sex life. In fact, a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found a more realistic answer that has little to do with the bedroom: attentiveness.

“Sexual desire tends to subside gradually over time, with many couples failing to maintain desire in their long-term relationships,” explained the researchers. But simply responding to a partner’s needs and making them feel special and appreciated can actually increase feelings of sexual desire, especially for women.

The researchers, hailing from the Baruch Ivcher School of Psychology and the University of Rochester, asked 100 couples to keep a relationship diary for six weeks. Each partner recorded their own feelings of sexual desire as well as how responsive they perceived their partner to be. They also journaled about how special and valued their partner made them feel on a day-to-day basis.

“People who perceive their partner as responsive believe that this partner understands and appreciates their needs, as well as reacts supportively to their goals,” said lead study author Gurit E. Birnbaum, Ph.D. “This is important because it shows that you not only care about your partner’s well-being, but that you truly understand his or her wants and needs.”

To cultivate responsiveness in your relationship, Birnbaum recommends setting aside time to talk and listen to your partner every day, without judgment or interruption. This intellectual intimacy could lead to greater sexual intimacy behind closed doors.

Do you find this to be true for you and your partner? Share your thoughts on the study below.

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