After years of dating or marriage, the simple habits that keep a relationship healthy and fulfilling can wax and wane with time. But a small glimpse of the day-to-day lives of the happiest couples can provide a much-needed refresher. The Huffington Post Australia recently spoke with a variety of relationship experts, psychologists, and dating coaches in an effort to paint a picture of what a happy relationship looks like. Read their responses below:
They always kiss their spouse hello and goodbye.
“Far from being a meaningless habit, this ensures that you connect, even for just a moment, at least twice a day. Many people in unhappy relationships say that they can’t recall when they stopped kissing at greetings and goodbyes—it just slips away without effort. When you make the time to make eye contact with your partner and kiss them, it shows that you prioritise your relationship even during the busiest of mornings or evenings.” ― Dr. Samantha Rodman, psychologist and dating coach
They are generous with compliments.
“Everyone needs compliments, and they especially need them from their partner. You cannot give too many sincere compliments―whether you have been together five years or 50. It can be simple things like saying, ‘You look especially gorgeous today,’ to deeply felt statements like, ‘I was so proud of you today when you gave our son such wise advice.’” ― Dr. Pepper Schwartz, professor of sociology and certified sexologist
They disagree at times, but they fight fair.
“If partners don’t disagree now and then, they’re either not being honest or aren’t human. Disagreeing isn’t a marriage problem―it’s normal. It’s how couples work through their disagreements (or rather don’t) that can become bad for their marriage. Take a look at your disagreements and see what bad habits each partner has when you disagree. Do you talk over each other? Get angry? Yell? Swear? Name call? Disengage? Each partner should make a list of their bad tendencies and use future disagreements to practice responding differently and building better communication skills.” ― Kurt Smith, therapist who specialises in counseling for men
What healthy relationship habits would you add to this list? Share your thoughts below!